you have to be careful which host you choose, many hosts will not allow any type of adult content at all,

most hosts have a programme called fantastico where your board is practically installed for you, you just need to input minute data info, like your username and password, as for upgrades and tweaks, you will be really hard pushed to find a host that will do that,

it may have to be that you pay someone else to do it for you separately, i think to sum up, i dont think there is a host that will cater to all your needs. sorry

they are a hosts not a web design firm, most will not have a clue how to do it even if you asked them and offered to pay for it.

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